I felt like I needed to burn before sis got here. LOL, I am not even burning the magazines that dad has 30 years of. Just some misc ones. But I will probably start burning the older ones too unless sis and B take them and they have no shelf space for them.
More generally I am having to work to quash feelings that sibs and their spouses are being greedy snots. It is a good thing that B wanted Dad's pickup. I can probably buy it with a family discount if I need to replace my 350, and I certainly don't need to try to maintain two pickups plus two cars. But pbbttt to sis thinking I needed to find the title and shit. She can do that while she is here, there is no reason I have to do ALL the grunt work for settling the estate after doing the grunt work of getting dad cared for for 18 months. I PAID mom and dad and then dad a pretty decent rent living here all these years.
p.s. Wednesday, day after they left was a bad day for me. Lots of ugly crying, I was having a mini meltdown, straw that started that was sis not finding a Thank-you card and addressing it to B's boss that sent flowers. I was sooooo mad at him for not telling his boss to wait and send flowers for dad's memorial in ND, or even the one we will do here. What do I want with flowers when there is no gathering of folks to see them?! But men are clueless, they are doing the best that they can.
Mostly mad that of course I AM stuck with settling the estate, I know it only makes sense geographical wise but sis managed to dodge almost all of it. She made ONE call to one insurance agency and sorted out that *I* have to just request it as the estate and send in mom's death certificate as well as dad's as mom was the primary beneficiary. I knew dad spent plenty of time sorting out mom's insurance polices and retirement account but it all so full of legalese and time consuming to do.
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